What Was Designed To Kill You Can……..

Melody Beattie explains how I feel about gratitude best. She says that “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

As I started to reshape my life with the guidance of my mentor, there were so many experiences and people I was grateful for.

Another way my mentor helped me to heal was by asking me to think about the experiences that “broke” and find at least three things in each of them I was grateful for.

At the beginning, it was not an easy task. These were negative experiences so why in the world would I find anything about them to be grateful for.

As I started this exercise, I really had to think deeply but as I moved from experience to experience the process was not as difficult.

Here are some of the things I identified as I completed this assignment.

I am grateful for life and for the opportunity to be mentored by a successful executive.

I am grateful that I had not taken my life that dreadful night as I had contemplated doing.

I am grateful that I had been able to leave a relationship that was destroying me mentally, physically and psychologically – many women don’t make it out alive.

I am grateful that I had a home to run to; a place where a village of people helped me to recover from the abusive relationship.

I am grateful and humble that God chose me to help broken women, men, boys and girls breakthrough the limitations that hold them back.

I am grateful that I am a living testimony that you can overcome the past and create a better future.

I am grateful that God placed the dream in me to start the Transition Mentoring Program.

I am grateful for each experience I’ve had thus far in life. They have all prepared me to step into my purpose and into my destiny.

Reframing my thoughts and experiences allowed me to take the lessons I needed from each and leave the rest behind.

As I reframed my mind, I began to embrace each day with a sense of gratefulness and humbleness.

I agree with William Arthur Ward; “Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”

My mentor is a brilliant man. He knew that if I found things to be thankful for in each experience, I would get value from them and it would make it harder for me to be negative about them.

Having a grateful heart and finding the “good” or the “lesson” in each situation allows us to move forward in our lives wiser and stronger.

When we fail, we can make a success out of failure by taking the lesson and improving.

This week, as you face whatever challenges come your way, remember that “all things work together for good.” Even when it’s bad, know that someday in the future it will work out for your good.

I’m your sister in love, rooting for your success.



Duquesa D. Dean


Duquesa D. Dean is a Certified Trainer, Speaker and a Transformation Coach. She is an Associate Trainer with the International Board of Certified Trainers and a certified Coach, Speaker & Trainer with the John Maxwell Team.

Duquesa is the author of three books “Chase Your Dreams”, “Sister, Stand Up Again & “Bruised But Not Broken”.

To book Duquesa, email duquesa@duquesadean.com or call 242-424-6012

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